An open letter to all Women: Utterly Beautiful and Flawless –What HE thinks about you


Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30

My heart is so heavy today. I am not sure where to even begin this blog post but I am going to open my heart and just speak what I feel and hopefully all the pieces fall together in place and make sense. This is not a feminist post or rising above the male. This is a post trying to wake up those sleeping queens who have sold themselves a bill of goods that is less than what they deserve. You, dear ladies, break my heart. You, dear sister, are so much more valuable than how you are being treated.

You are utterly beautiful, my dearest; there’s not a single flaw in you. 

Song of Solomon 4:7

As a society, have we fallen so far as women that we do not know our worth? Have our young women lost sight of how valuable they are that they begin to accept any male attention regardless of how derogatory it is? Derogatory means critical and disrespectful.

Song of Solomon 4:7

Everything about you is beautiful, my love; you are without a flaw. 

There is a new fad going around that I kind of like. It gets a little extreme at times but if you take it with a grain of salt you will realize a message behind it. There is a term people use to call their significant other. ‘My King’ and ‘My Queen’ I am not trying to step off into vanity or self-admiration but I am trying to tell those single women out there that they deserve someone to call them a ‘Queen’

Those broken hearted single mothers who work constantly to make ends meet and have guilt coming out of their ears… You, my love, are a queen and do not deserve less than someone who values you.

Those acne-fighting teenagers who don’t have self-esteem. You, my love, are going to grow into a gorgeous woman, regardless of size and appearance.

Those abused girls who have to give up something valuable in order to make someone love her and touch her and want her… You, my love, are not required to earn someone’s love that way. You are not needed to provide services to make someone pay attention to you. I wish you knew this. I wish someone told you this. I wish you didn’t believe you had to give so much to receive so little.

Song of Solomon 4:7

 You are absolutely beautiful, my darling, with no imperfection in you.

What are you setting yourself up for, lady, woman, female, beautiful young girl? What are you teaching that daughter that is growing up behind you? What is she learning as she walks in your footsteps? A new boyfriend every three months? A new voice behind those closed bedroom doors…a new face, no consistency….

Song of Solomon 4:7

You are beautiful in every way, my true love. There is no blemish on you. 

This breaks my heart. It makes me sad that I can’t fix the situation. You don’t have to have the attention of every man out there over and over and over again until he gets tired of you and moves on. You can be strong and independent and a role model for those that watch you and grow and begin to mature and walk in your footsteps.

You don’t deserve to hear those nasty things, those ‘jokes’, those crude, vulgar remarks. You are a QUEEN. You are a princess. You are a woman. You deserve respect, love and admiration.

Song of Solomon 4:7 

My darling, everything about you is beautiful, and there is nothing at all wrong with you.

You will never never never never never hear Jesus Christ speak of his bride that way. You will never hear him joke about her in a crude manner. The only words he speaks are those of love and respect. His bride is his precious, irreplaceable jewel. The apple of his eye. No one compares to his bride, his queen.

Song of Solomon 4:7

You [are] completely beautiful, my beloved! {You are flawless}! 

What? You don’t think you will find a man like this? You don’t think you deserve a man like that? You don’t think there are any left? You don’t think a man will know how to treat you like that? Stop listening to those lies! Don’t you degrade your own self to think that is all you are worth. You are worth so much more. You can be a strong woman of virtue and integrity until a man like that comes along. You are a priceless jewel and if he speaks of you less than that he is unworthy. Don’t sell yourself so short! Don’t sellout and compromise. Don’t give in to someone who does not know your core value.

Song of Solomon 4:7

Thou art all fair, my companion, and there is no spot in thee. 

I know you have been hurt.

I know you have been used.

I know you have no self value and no self worth.

I know you look at yourself in the mirror and you do not see what God sees in you.

I know you don’t think you deserve a man who will treat you right.

But there is a King out there for every woman. There is a man that God has created you to be a helpmeet for.

Quit selling your soul.

Quit creating soul ties with monsters.

Quit linking your spirit to those who have demons far worse than you can imagine.

I beg you to look over your shoulder. IF you are single mother working hard to make ends meet and you are changing boyfriend after boyfriend, you are opening

the doors of your home,

your heart,

your life

to spirits that will attach themselves to you and your babies.

You have to stop. You have to get your head on straight…for your children’s sake!

This is not a fairy tale. I am speaking truth. I hope the right people read this and open their eyes.

Being a male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age but being a gentleman is a matter of choice. Seek after God and let him bring a real man into your life that will tear down all the walls, lead you in prayer and fight your battles for you. A real man who will accept your flaws and kiss the scars and wipe away the tears NOT flaunt your bad habits or secrets in the street and broadcast your weaknesses.

Find God and let him find you a real man. You are beautiful and deserve to be cherished all the days of your life. Please. I beg you, my lovely sister, close in your secret garden and heal. Let God heal you. He can bind up your broken heart, renew your spirit and make you whole so one day you can compliment the man he has for you.

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