An open letter to all Women: Utterly Beautiful and Flawless –What HE thinks about you

posted on: May 2, 2017


Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30

My heart is so heavy today. I am not sure where to even begin this blog post but I am going to open my heart and just speak what I feel and hopefully all the pieces fall together in place and make sense. This is not a feminist post or rising above the male. This is a post trying to wake up those sleeping queens who have sold themselves a bill of goods that is less than what they deserve. You, dear ladies, break my heart. You, dear sister, are so much more valuable than how you are being treated.

You are utterly beautiful, my dearest; there’s not a single flaw in you. 

Song of Solomon 4:7

As a society, have we fallen so far as women that we do not know our worth? Have our young women lost sight of how valuable they are that they begin to accept any male attention regardless of how derogatory it is? Derogatory means critical and disrespectful.

Song of Solomon 4:7

Everything about you is beautiful, my love; you are without a flaw. 

There is a new fad going around that I kind of like. It gets a little extreme at times but if you take it with a grain of salt you will realize a message behind it. There is a term people use to call their significant other. ‘My King’ and ‘My Queen’ I am not trying to step off into vanity or self-admiration but I am trying to tell those single women out there that they deserve someone to call them a ‘Queen’

Those broken hearted single mothers who work constantly to make ends meet and have guilt coming out of their ears… You, my love, are a queen and do not deserve less than someone who values you.

Those acne-fighting teenagers who don’t have self-esteem. You, my love, are going to grow into a gorgeous woman, regardless of size and appearance.

Those abused girls who have to give up something valuable in order to make someone love her and touch her and want her… You, my love, are not required to earn someone’s love that way. You are not needed to provide services to make someone pay attention to you. I wish you knew this. I wish someone told you this. I wish you didn’t believe you had to give so much to receive so little.

Song of Solomon 4:7

 You are absolutely beautiful, my darling, with no imperfection in you.

What are you setting yourself up for, lady, woman, female, beautiful young girl? What are you teaching that daughter that is growing up behind you? What is she learning as she walks in your footsteps? A new boyfriend every three months? A new voice behind those closed bedroom doors…a new face, no consistency….

Song of Solomon 4:7

You are beautiful in every way, my true love. There is no blemish on you. 

This breaks my heart. It makes me sad that I can’t fix the situation. You don’t have to have the attention of every man out there over and over and over again until he gets tired of you and moves on. You can be strong and independent and a role model for those that watch you and grow and begin to mature and walk in your footsteps.

You don’t deserve to hear those nasty things, those ‘jokes’, those crude, vulgar remarks. You are a QUEEN. You are a princess. You are a woman. You deserve respect, love and admiration.

Song of Solomon 4:7 

My darling, everything about you is beautiful, and there is nothing at all wrong with you.

You will never never never never never hear Jesus Christ speak of his bride that way. You will never hear him joke about her in a crude manner. The only words he speaks are those of love and respect. His bride is his precious, irreplaceable jewel. The apple of his eye. No one compares to his bride, his queen.

Song of Solomon 4:7

You [are] completely beautiful, my beloved! {You are flawless}! 

What? You don’t think you will find a man like this? You don’t think you deserve a man like that? You don’t think there are any left? You don’t think a man will know how to treat you like that? Stop listening to those lies! Don’t you degrade your own self to think that is all you are worth. You are worth so much more. You can be a strong woman of virtue and integrity until a man like that comes along. You are a priceless jewel and if he speaks of you less than that he is unworthy. Don’t sell yourself so short! Don’t sellout and compromise. Don’t give in to someone who does not know your core value.

Song of Solomon 4:7

Thou art all fair, my companion, and there is no spot in thee. 

I know you have been hurt.

I know you have been used.

I know you have no self value and no self worth.

I know you look at yourself in the mirror and you do not see what God sees in you.

I know you don’t think you deserve a man who will treat you right.

But there is a King out there for every woman. There is a man that God has created you to be a helpmeet for.

Quit selling your soul.

Quit creating soul ties with monsters.

Quit linking your spirit to those who have demons far worse than you can imagine.

I beg you to look over your shoulder. IF you are single mother working hard to make ends meet and you are changing boyfriend after boyfriend, you are opening

the doors of your home,

your heart,

your life

to spirits that will attach themselves to you and your babies.

You have to stop. You have to get your head on straight…for your children’s sake!

This is not a fairy tale. I am speaking truth. I hope the right people read this and open their eyes.

Being a male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age but being a gentleman is a matter of choice. Seek after God and let him bring a real man into your life that will tear down all the walls, lead you in prayer and fight your battles for you. A real man who will accept your flaws and kiss the scars and wipe away the tears NOT flaunt your bad habits or secrets in the street and broadcast your weaknesses.

Find God and let him find you a real man. You are beautiful and deserve to be cherished all the days of your life. Please. I beg you, my lovely sister, close in your secret garden and heal. Let God heal you. He can bind up your broken heart, renew your spirit and make you whole so one day you can compliment the man he has for you.

Prevention, Intervention & Restoration and the annual Flea Fest 

posted on: May 1, 2017

Learn : Choose one type of slavery to learn more about via Polaris Project’s Modern Slavery Typology at
Study Places: Choose one of the countries in the Global Slavery Index to learn more about:
Grow and be knowledgeable concerning Methodology: Learn about the Global Slavery Index methodology:

I had a wonderful weekend full of speaking  events and chances to get my book in the public’s hands.  

Saturday was the UMW’s campaign against modern slavery event in Lake Arthur.  The DA’S office was there as well as local police officers and D.A.R.E  officers…all who spoke before I did.
I was nervous to hear what they had to say but we were all on the same page. Human trafficking Is real and small communities are not immune to the nightmare. 

  We need some way to get into the high schools and teach the dangers of social media. There are predators waiting and lurking and watching.  

​This lady, Ms Taylor headed up the whole thing. She is over eighty years old and looks and acts like she’s sixty. We need all hands-on deck concerning our kids and she made me so proud to be  a part of what she was doing.  
I looked around at all the elderly grandmas there…and realized that’s what it takes. Family. It takes strong community 

Strong churches with core family values. We need moms and dads to be as concerned as those grandparents are. 

I was honored to be there.  

Afterwards I went to Flea  fest in  Lake Charles. Made lots of contacts. Did not sell books but made connections.  I hope to gain exposure from those connections. Thank you Rusty Havens for sharing your booth and vision with me. I went home exhausted and but Hopeful. 

Did you know the Statistics about Houston Texas Human Trafficking

posted on: April 28, 2017

All the following information is found on :

Texas is the center for international human trafficking because of interstate highways, international airports, shipping commerce through the Gulf of Mexico, and the shared border with Mexico. The border serves as North America’s busiest supply site for young children used in sex and labor trafficking.

Due to Houston being the fourth largest city in Texas and one of the largest international communities in the country Houston is number one on the U.S top twenty human trafficking jurisdictions in the country. In the last quarter of 2007, 30% of the calls received by the National Human Trafficking Hotline were out of Texas and 25% of all international victims certified by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services were in Texas. The high number of runaways also contribute to the staggering amount of underage minors in the slave trades.

As reported by National

Runaway Hotline, “One

out of every three children

that run away is lured into

sex trafficking within 48

hours of leaving home

Contact me for your FREE material to help spread awareness of human trafficking and how we can fight it

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If you, yourself, or know someone who is in need of help please contact us.

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713.274.3521- Pct. 7 Victims’ Coordinator

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Notes, Research, preparing for upcoming talk/speech notes-

posted on: April 25, 2017

Three years ago had someone told me this is where I would be, speaking to you wonderful people about this subject, I would not have believed them. Human trafficking sounded like a scary fairy tale …something that happened over there, overseas in a foreign uncivilized country. It just wasn’t something that happened here to us. To Americans.

I was traveling through Houston three years ago with my husband when we were driving on the interstate and passed a sign, all I could read was ‘Elijah’ and I felt so compelled to go back and see what that sign said. What was the rest of it? So we made our way back around and the building was called Elijah’s Rising. This was my introduction to human trafficking in America. The gutted building had once been a brothel but was now in the process of becoming a prayer room/ museum that would be used to host van tours, be a place for prayer for the city throughout the week and eventually become a sex trafficking awareness museum.

I took their van tour. I would recommend it to anyone who wanted to learn what to look for, what signs to notice about certain buildings and areas of a city. But I walked away full of all this knowledge. What was I suppose to do now? How could I go back to being normal . Living a mundane life. I looked at the world different. I didn’t see people the same way. I didn’t categorize certain people and lump them all in one big pile and write them off.

The burden wouldn’t leave me. I couldn’t shake the feeling that I had to DO SOMETHING. So I prayed. And isn’t that the best place to go to get answers, anyway? I ask God to give me a voice. Speak through me and give me the words to say. I would go anywhere. Do anything…just let me be able to tell the world, tell my world what I knew. Therefore, over the next three years I wrote this book. It is a Christian fiction based book, this is NOT my story. I did not come out of human trafficking. People have asked me if I was telling my story. No, I am not writing a memoir. This is a fiction story with truths interwoven all throughout it.

While researching for this book, I learned about runaways. Kids younger than 14 years old running away from home. Statistics show that within 48 hours of being on the streets, a runaway will be in contact with a pimp, within 48 hours from leaving home.

I learned that human trafficking umbrella-ed labor trafficking, domesticated trafficking and sex trafficking which is what I chose to write my book on. The term trafficking doesn’t necessary mean or include movement of an individual but rather it is the ‘holding’ of an individual. A person who can’t leave their job, they work for little or no money at all. They are paying off a debt of some sort to another and never have the ability to payoff that debt. Human servitude.

SO many people have wrote articles, spoke at conferences, did TedTalks and I have taken it all in and learned and researched and studied and wanted to bring some of that to you.

This has nothing to do with lousy jobs or a lousy marriage. This is the confinement and imprisonment of an individual. They can’t leave and go away. They are required to stay with their employer.

What do you feel when you think about the estimated 30 plus million people who are in some form of slavery in the world today? Think about that. Let it sink in.


It is an overwhelming feeling, huh? What can I do…one single person. One mom of three…wife…American… one person. But when I speak out—when I write a book—when someone organizes a fundraiser, one becomes three. And three becomes 300 and suddenly people are waking up and wanting to do things to change-and a snowball effect is created…the right people become involved.

Now what DO you do about that? How do you take the information you have learned and spread awareness and help contribute in some way?

— Make hygiene bags and keep them in your car- toiletries and things you can give to anyone you spot on the street.

–carry human trafficking hotline business cards in your wallet and hand them out to everyone you meet. You don’t even have to take the time to explain the whole dark world of human trafficking.

Take the time to go online and research organizations that you can get involved in SEPT 24th is a FREEDOM Sunday. Host a freedom Sunday at your church. All the information you need all the resources are online. Just download and print.


Tate who is the Creator &Community Cultivator of Freecember / Freedom Fortnight


Move Beyond Awareness. Choose a Challenge. Raise Support for an Anti-Trafficking Organisation You Care About.


24 April – 7 May 2017

14 Days of Focus on Modern Slavery / Human Trafficking

Celebrate Progress. Overcome Overwhelmed. Connect with Others Who Care. Find Your Focus.


“It took some time for me to understand that what the movement really needed was more everyday people. Regular moms, dads, grandparents, teachers, nurses, dentists, accountants, professors, business owners, senior citizens, physical therapists, doctors, janitors, bartenders, artists – anyone without a fancy title or who thought they didn’t have any power. … What was missing in the new abolitionist movement was people like me.


“What was missing was people like you.”


– Kimberley McOwen Yim, Refuse to Do Nothing


If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. – African Proverb


I don’t want to end this information without bringing up prayer. Going back to my book, I wouldn’t have been able to finish this book without going to God in prayer. He is an author. He loves authors and I ask him to breathe life into this book. I truly believe he gave me the words to write. Prayer opens doors and breaks chains that we can’t do on our own. Prayer will take you places that you can’t walk without God. If you truly want to get involved and do things for your community and your city then start with prayer. Prayer is not a last minute solution or some last resort. God can walk into captive’s hopeless situations and restore, heal and bring life and hope where there was none.

IF you want to be an activist. A world changer. A movement pusher—then first of all I ask you to become a prayer partner. Unite with those around you and become a prayer warrior.

Hebert library Meet&Greet 

posted on: April 25, 2017

Thankful for my family and friends who took time to come to the first meeting. I had a chance to practice talking about my book…..My desires and goals for where I want to see this book  go. Why I chose to write this book  and what happens once we are faced with the knowledge of human trafficking. I was touched by how many books were bought and needed to be signed and dedicated to a friend or loved one. These people care and are spreading the news and making others aware. That’s how this works!! 


Happy anniversary to me 

posted on: April 23, 2017

My heart is so full this morning. My family will all be with me in church today.  There will be ten of us! I’m on the verge of tears because it gets so lonely going to church and seeing other families there together but today on my husband and my 12th anniversary we will have a full row. Rev. Tes Stewarrd will be preaching  as well. Super excited about that. I am going to give him one of my books to read since he is on the  Pentecostal Publishing house board maybe he can help being awareness to my book…. 

I woke up to red roses for my anniversary this morning as well. I have another Dewberry cobbler in the oven for after service. Today is full of God things….good things. I just know it. Thank you Jesus for your blessings.  

Dewberry cobbler makes up for all the stains and scratches

posted on: April 23, 2017

I could have stayed in. Got into my pjs  and studied up for the meet and greet speech Monday night I will be making but instead the warm breeze captivated my attention and a brief hello from a neighbor got me and the kids out into the fading sunlight.  And I don’t regret it a bit. 

They invited us over to pick Dewberries heavy in the patches. So of course I agreed. Along the way we were stopped by the friendliest chickens I’ve met in their yard. I had to stop to hold one. 

My husband told me these were the biggest Dewberries he had ever seen “as big as your thumb” and of course the cynical that I am…didn’t believe him until I saw them and touched them and tasted them….call me doubting Thomas. 
They were magnificent and though the stickers and thicket branches snagged my clothes and cut my skin I was determined to fill my container. My dad always covered berries in sugar and I wanted to do the same. The trick to eating berries with seeds is to squash the berry with your  tongue against the roof of your mouth so you  don’t get the seeds in your teeth. I forgot to tell my kiddos that as they shared berries with Jon straight from the vine.
 He was filthy. Covered in berry juice but so so happy. I didn’t mind the  stains at all. This  is what childhood memories are made of. 

When offered fresh eggs I decided a cobbler was in order. These fresh berries were just going to be too good to eat alone. So she gave me a recipe too! 

An hour went by so quickly in their yard but those memories will last a long time. Thank you  neighbor. I always thought having berries bushes would be too invasive to plant in my yard because I had seen them take over but he keeps his maintained and trimmed back after the season is over…..made me think. What other things or people have I refused to allow in my life because I thought they would be too invasive??? I just have to have the discipline to maintain….so that’s my thought for tonight. Thank you. Enjoy!!!! It’s time to bake a cobbler…Maybe two so I can bring one back to share!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ 

Terri Hamilton Fundraiser

posted on: April 19, 2017

As a person, writer, mother, teacher, wife, friend….one thing I believe in is a helping hand, support and family. With that being said, I am using my christian fiction novel as a tool in hopes of helping an old friend this summer. I hope I am able to do this more often with lots of causes.





Terri Hamilton has been a long time friend of mine since we went to bible college many years ago. Now married for nine years she teaches and her husband landscapes. She has four children and lives across the country from her family in Mississippi…and has not been home in over four years.

A family reunion has been scheduled this summer and she would love for her dad, brothers, and sisters to meet her entire family (many have not meet her children yet!

It will cost them about $3000 in order to fly the family of six and to rent a van for travels while there visiting.

$10 from every book SOLD will go to Terri’s situation.

You can buy the book on my website:
IF you do NOT want to purchase a book, you are welcome to send any amount directly to her.
624 E. 86th Street Tacoma, WA 98445

May God bless you. Thank you for helping me spread the word and bring spiritual awareness to the real crisis of human trafficking AND helping support a friend and her need. God bless you!

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