SETX Homeschool Expo-Author’s Corner

posted on: June 24, 2018

This was the second year, I have been invited to the SETX Homeschool Expo. https://www.facebook.com/events/170275663766999/

Jessica Fant, does an excellent job portraying her vision and creating an incredible experience in such an educational atmosphere. This year was larger and on a grander scale than the last two years. Tucked away in the coziest corner of Ford Park was a coffee station and all of us. The authors. Our genres are all different and we come from very different backgrounds but over the last two days, we warmed up to each other and learned so much.

Armed with new books and new friendships, I came away with gems. Over the next few weeks,  I will be posting new author interviews from my new friends.

One week, you will meet a two time deployed military veteran who is now a school teacher and an author.

One week, you will meet a pastor’s wife who has written the homeschool book of all books that will help you lose every excuse you could possibly think of, not to homeschool.

One week, you will meet a beautiful author of many, many books with some of her books involving a certain cat who is from Louisiana and takes us on a journey through Cajun Creole country.

I am so excited to share my friends with you. Check back and read their interviews coming up and go to their social media links if you want to buy their books or share them with your friends and followers.

Book One of Pushing Back the Darkness series

Thanks, Jessica Fant. I couldn’t have done it without you. I anticipate next year already.

Author’s Corner

The Gift of Fear-An Interview with Safety Sisters Founder, Brittany Moore (with a surprise gift for my readers)

posted on: April 9, 2018

The Gift of Fear. Is that even possible…to view fear as a gift? As a public speaker bringing awareness to human trafficking and how it affects our communities and our teens, I often feel that sensation of fear as I study and prepare to stand before people. A few ideas come to mind from other people and what they have had to say about fear; I want to share those with you. One is from Daniel Koren, author of ‘He Called Her’. Concerning fear  he said (paraphrasing in my words) to let fear run as far as possible in your mind…what is the worst that can happen? Now, open your eyes. You are still here. You are still standing. Fear runs out and you are still standing. 

Another public speaker I heard speak of the gift of fear said something that stuck with me and I constantly bring her words back to mind as I feel that rush of butterflies and those twisted, nervous, sweaty palms sensations. What if we are so unfamiliar with the feeling of power that we associate that nervous, scary feeling with fear instead of what it truly is-power. Public speakers have the unique opportunity to plant an idea in the minds of their audience. That is powerful and should be an exciting moment, not a fearful one. 

With that being said, Meet Brittany Moore,  a certified safety and self-defense educator who is going into public speaking as well.

The following interview is with a fellow Damsel in Defense sister. Damsel in Defense’s mission is to equip, empower and educate women to protect themselves and their families. Our Independent Damsel Pros are not only arming others and experiencing financial freedom, but also offering empowerment and healing to those affected by assault #becauseofdamsel. 

One by one, we are changing statistics and giving back to the many amazing partner organizations below that are making a difference in the lives of those who have been assaulted. As we continue to grow, our hearts and eyes are wide open for where God will take us next. But Damsel in Defense is only one part of all our lives. Beyond that, we do so many other fascinating things. For this Damsel sister Brittany Moore, I am excited to share how God is leading her into her newest venture. 

Enjoy!

 

First off, I want to thank Laura so much for taking the time to chat with me. I love what you are doing to help bring your passion to raising awareness for human trafficking. Now a little about me…I’m a wife, mother, daughter, sister and the owner of Safety Sister.

My background is in psychology and health education and I am a certified safety and self-defense educator.

 

What do you do?

 

I teach women (teens to senior citizens) how to protect themselves and their families through awareness and prevention. I love every single aspect of what I do and hope to equip as many women as possible with the mental and physical tools to keep themselves safe.

Tell my readers 2-3 specific accomplishments or experiences.

-My mother, my inspiration for what I do, was a victim of rape from a serial killer who was later convicted. Although her experience was not my own experience, I grew up knowing about it and knowing how important it was to learn to protect myself. None of us should ever have to learn about personal safety the way she did, so her experience has inspired me to teach people how to avoid becoming a victim at all costs.

-Started “Safety Sister” in April 2017

-Published a “Personal & Family Safety” e-course in March 2018

What are your greatest professional strengths?

My greatest professional strengths are an unwillingness to give up. If something doesn’t work, I will get creative be sure to find another way to make it work. My second strength is in my desire to continue learning. Both strengths come from my passion for what I do and to share the knowledge with others.

What would you say are your Greatest Weaknesses?

We all have weaknesses and I’m no exception.  But our weaknesses are not what define us, our willingness to work hard enough to overcome them is what does. So, the only true weakness is not having the desire to overcome. I’m definitely not lacking in my desire, therefore I will overcome!

Do you have a nonprofit organization you admire or contribute to?

I know a few people with personal connections to St. Jude Children’s hospital and have heard only amazing things. I try to raise money for them as often as possible. Also, RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network is a great organization that comes out with so much helpful information and resources for women.

What do you think you have had to overcome to be who you are today?

I don’t claim to have had to endure even a fraction of what others have been through and I attribute that, in part, to my mom and the knowledge I was given as a child. My biggest barrier and the biggest thing I continue to overcome is myself, my doubts, and my setbacks. It’s easy to let them get in the way of getting to where you want to go. But if you focus on the goal, and know that, one way or another, you will find a way, you will succeed.

What is the last book that has made you cry?

As a mom, I don’t get much time to read, so I re-listened to “The Gift of Fear” a few weeks ago, which was part of my inspiration in doing what I do. I cry every time I listen to it because it hits so close to home and I hate the thought of people in this world have to endure such evil every day.

*The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence is a nonfiction self-help book (Dell Publishing 1997, republished with new epilogue 1998) written by Gavin de Becker. The book demonstrates how every individual should learn to trust the inherent “gift” of their gut instinct. By learning to recognize various warning signs and precursors to violence, it becomes possible to avoid potential trauma and harm.

The Gift of Fear spent four months on The New York Times Bestseller List, was a #1 National Bestseller, and has been published in 14 languages.

What’s your dream job?

My dream job would be a general manager of a major league baseball team. I grew up playing baseball, yes baseball, with the boys. The history and the sanctity of the game have always held a special place in my heart.

That’s incredible. Wow. So, in your own words what is your definition of success?

My definition of success is being able to do something that I love and feel like I’m really making a difference rather than going to an office job that I don’t like every day.

Doing something you love….so would you say you are successful and in what ways?

Absolutely! I’m successful in the sense that I had an idea and a passion and I turned it into an organization! I had no idea what I was capable of when I first started and I’ve learned a lot about myself.

What is your greatest professional achievement?

Publishing my e-book and e-course that each took about a year to put together.

Do you have long term goals that you can share with the readers?

In the long-term I’d like to extend my reach to high schools and colleges, giving seminars, and teaching women how to be proactive with their own safety and not take it for granted.

If a youth asked for your advice and you only had a few minutes to give them your best tip, what would it be?

  1. Pay attention.
  2. Educate yourself.
  3. And listen to your instincts. Just about everything you do in life will be helped by those 3 pieces of advice!

That’s great advice for anyone. Let’s change directions for a moment. Have you ever created a vision board?

Not an actual one…although my pinterest boards are all overflowing!

Aren’t ours all overflowing? HA! So, do you have a favorite motto that you live by?

I used to love the quote:

“It’s good for the soul to invest in something you can’t control.”

which comes from the movie Fever Pitch and is in reference to baseball. However, doing what I do now, this has become the opposite of the motto I choose to live by. Now, I prefer to live by the motto and quote which again comes from “The Gift of Fear”:

“Whether it’s learned the easy way or the hard way, the truth remains, safety is yours.”

 


I love it! Thank you so much. They are both great quotes. I am so excited to hear more about your future ventures and where God is going to take you on this journey. I can’t wait to hear and share the stories of the lives you will positively impact. 

If anyone is interested in contacting you further what’s the easiest way(s) to reach you???

Readers can find us at www.safetysister.com, on Facebook at @safetysister or email us at sisterinselfdefense@gmail.com.

Our e-course is directly available at https://safety-sisters.teachable.com/

For all of Laura’s followers, I’d love to offer you a 50% discount on our “Personal & Family Safety” e-course.

Use promo code LAURAARANDA to receive your discount!

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Interview with Tom Schutle, Author of Spiritual Ambitions, Public Speaker & Red Cross Volunteer

posted on: February 20, 2018

SPIRITUAL AMBITIONS

Our ambitions determine the kind of person we become, and the kind of person we become determines what we will do in life. And since what we do in life can have lasting—even eternal—results, it’s no surprise that many of us strive to reach our ambitions. Yet while we can be consumed with pursuing worldly, secular ambitions for career and family, our spiritual ambitions are too often left to chance as we drift through life.

Tom agreed to an interview. Enjoy! Let’s begin. Please tell the readers a little about yourself. 

My name is Tom Schutle. People have told me I am a deep thinker over a wide range of topics, and an observer.

You are an author. When did you publish your first work?  

What is the Title?

Spiritual Ambitions, (How rich Do You Want to be in Eternity) is my first book, published in January of 2018.

 

What do you do? 

 I was the environmental steward for an incinerator. I am currently retired, spending my time volunteering for the Red Cross, working in a jail and prison ministry, and writing.

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 Start off with the 2-3 specific accomplishments or experiences.

I am absolutely not athletic, but  rode in the BP MS-150 bicycle ride, and successfully rode from Houston to Austin (172 miles).

I also won the District 68 toastmaster evaluation contest in 2016

 What are your greatest professional strengths?

I bring a creative focus to every problem, looking to the basis to resolve them. I am also very eclectic, being well read in my field, and able to bring greatly different subjects to solve seemingly unrelated problems. I also have a high level of integrity, which has put me in interesting situations.

 

Greatest Weaknesses?

I get so focused on what I am working on that I tend to come across as aloof and intimidating.

 

Do you have a nonprofit organization you admire or contribute to?

The organization I support the most is the Gideons International, because their mission is to put the Word of God in as many places as possible where people are hungry.

 

What do you think you have had to overcome to be who you are today?

Tough question. I grew up in a place where I had to work fields all day. As a result, I have trouble socializing at most levels.

 

What is the last book that has made you cry? 

If a fictional book is such that I would cry, I generally put it down. I am touched by true stories of people who gain success in spite of terrible circumstances and the huge cost they incur.

I just finished “Hope for the Caregiver” by Peter Rosenberger, published by Worthy Inspired. I recommend it for those that are either a primary caregiver, or soon will be.

I’m working through a book by Donald Frazier, “Greek Nuggets” published by Tate publishing.

 

What’s your dream job? 

Since I am retired, I can choose my job without worrying about hours or pay. I am getting close to living my dream job, with my efforts in prisons, and writing.

 

What is your definition of success?  

After I die, hearing Jesus say “Well done, my good and faithful servant.”

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Would you say, while on earth now, you are successful and if so, in what ways? 

 I can never say I am 100% aligned with my definition of success. But, I am more so today than yesterday, and plan on being less today than tomorrow.

 

What are a few of your greatest professional achievements?

I have a bachelor’s in Chemical Engineering from Case Western Reserve, and a Masters in Engineering from the University of Louisville. More important than my degrees is the life-long attitude of continually learning. I have completed the creative writing specialization – Wesleyan University, through Coursera. As an engineer, I was once the president of an associated trade association. My writing will far eclipse that, and hopefully, will be more impactful.

 

Thank you for that! Do you have long-term goals that you can share with the readers?

Spiritual ambitions really are goals that are moving targets. No matter how close you come, the target is always just out of reach and still a viable goal. 

In many ways, Spiritual Ambitions describe my overarching life goals. I believe that our spirituality determines almost the rest of our life. Because of this, concentrating on my relationship with Jesus will positively impact the lessor parts of my life.

In a more specific sense, A second book, The Last Leaf, will be released in two months.

I have four more projects scheduled for 2018, which are:

  • “The fire in my belly,” about the journey of an immigrant family told from the perspective of his furnace, which is in polish edit
  • “Is the Holy Spirit a Liar,” discussing why we don’t see more changed lives after salvation and what we should, individually, do about it, is about half-finished
  • “Examples of Sin,” This tentative title addresses examples of sin from scripture, with the objective of putting a mirror to ourselves, is about a quarter finished
  • “Why doesn’t God hear me?” This tentative tile addresses, scriptural, reasons why God doesn’t answer prayer, is in outline form

In 2019, I’m planning another book, “The Lazy Man’s Way to a Successful Marriage,” which is at the conceptual stage.

I work best by working on the first one, then, when stuck, switching to the second, and so forth.

I have other goals (the typical lose weight, exercise, blah blah), along with reading the Bible through, participate in two exhaustive Bible studies.

 

 That’s very good! So, if a youth walked up to asking for your advice and you only had a few minutes to give them your best tip, what would it be?

 God has created you for a purpose that only you can accomplish. If you don’t, that purpose won’t get done. No one else can take your place. Your challenge is to discover that purpose, which starts with a practical relationship with Jesus. After that, He will guide in that purpose.  I have observed many situations where people have a good concept, but somewhere, fall down in the execution. If it really is a good goal then one should research that goal, asking for advice from those that have done the same thing or similar. 

Typically, people don’t seem to reach their goals because they haven’t “counted the cost” or in other  words, have not determined the resources (time, skills, and money) to accomplish the goal.

Using my book as an example, I soon found out I don’t have a lot of the needed skills to bring it to market. I could have learned the skill, settled for a lessor goal, or hire the work. I don’t want to learn the skill nor settle for an inferior product, so I chose the third option. My belief is these decisions will give me the best chance for my goal to be successful.

It is very hard to create. I am unable to do more than about two hours of creative thinking at one time. Much of the writing effort is “grunt” type work, such as reviewing for grammar, sentence flow, etc.

I am currently frustrated by how the seasons flow in “the Fire in my Belly.” It is important that certain things happen when there is snow, and others in summer, yet the way people age makes this extremely difficult to get correct. The difference is minor to the reader, most might not notice the issue, but I am striving to do the best I can and I know when it isn’t my best.

Finally, be very careful whom you admire. You begin to become like those you admire.

How do you go about reaching goals?

We make time for those things important to us. The key is to monitor progress and make adjustments as needed. I personally like the acronym SMART when setting Goals

S – Specific

M- Measureable

A – Attainable

R- Reasonable

T- Time goal will be accomplished.

It sounds like I am very organized, but I am not. Reaching goals is a major struggle for me, which was one of the reasons behind developing “Spiritual Ambitions.”

I want to point out that I have written a detailed, twelve-page plan for “Spiritual Ambitions.” As I move through the process and learn more, I continually revise this plan.

A quote I like is “Plans are worthless, planning is invaluable.”

It is important to write goals down, and then look at them. Goals that you don’t keep and set before you to see are monuments for good thinking, not practical living.

Monuments belong in cemeteries. 

I have learned one major fact from my writing effort. The amount of resources – my time, energy, cost, and the time to bring the book to market – is far, far more than I anticipated.

 

Have you ever created a vision board? 

No. However, I use other  tools which accomplish similar objectives, such as mind maps, etc.

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I love quotes! Do you have a favorite motto that you live by?

I have two

1)      Seek first the kingdom of God

2)      If everyone agrees with you, you are probably wrong.

By the way, the kingdom of God is His complete governing rule in my life.

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If anyone is interested in contacting you further what’s the easiest way(s) to reach you???

 

The book’s web site is www.ThomasVictorSchutle.com

Through email –daydreamsfromthelastpew@gmail.com

Human Trafficking Awareness Interview with Michigan State Police Trooper Steven Kramer of Flint Post

posted on: January 29, 2018

Interview with Flint, Michigan State Trooper, Steven Kramer

Steven A. Kramer, age 44 is a community Service Trooper of Michigan State Police-Flint Post. For over the last four years, Trooper Kramer has pledged to do something to change the dynamics of the way human trafficking is viewed and dealt with in Flint, Michigan. Flint is well-known as the city drowning in so many other problems and fighting so many difficult obstacles. Studying online recorded the racial make-up of Flint consists of 57% black; 37% white while 42% of Flint residents live below the poverty line. The average household income is only $39,000.

Flint has ranked as one of America’s most dangerous cities for several years based on FBI crime statistics of violent crimes per capita.

Human Trafficking is just one more nightmare this city is trying to combat.
Human trafficking is both sex and labor trafficking.  It is a form of modern-day slavery that occurs around the world and in the United States.  It involves an act of recruiting, transporting, transferring, harboring, or receiving a person through the use of FORCE, FRAUD, or COERCION.  ANYONE can be a victim of human trafficking and ANYONE can be a trafficker. Flint and Michigan State Police are hoping to bridge the gap with Flint neighborhoods.

Below is an interview with one of the heroes on Flint, Michigan streets.

 
How long have you worked in this field?
I have been with the Michigan State Police for twenty years.  I have been in my current role as a Community Service Trooper /Recruiter for almost five years.   I have been involved with Human Trafficking awareness for about the last four years.  My partner, Trooper Amy Belanger  also works in this field and is heavily involved with human trafficking.  We have been partners for about three and a half years.
 
What are you passionate about?
I would say I’m very passionate about my job, especially  the work I am currently doing with the community. One message I want the world to understand is there is no such thing as a juvenile prostitute! If they are under age, it is trafficking!

What does Human Trafficking look like and how does it affect American Youth?
This is a tough question to answer, because it can look like so many different things.
Human trafficking is a crime that affects victims of any age, gender, race, or immigration status. Human trafficking occurs in all parts of this country – from cities, to suburbs, to rural areas.

Traffickers/Pimps are constantly coming up with new ways to lure our youth into this lifestyle.  They prey on desperation, curiosity, and naivety. 

Pimps/Traffickers can be girls, women, boys, young men, and older men.  Many kids are runaways at the time of recruitment.  Between 100,000 and 200,000 of United States Children are taken into trafficking each year.  The desired starting age is twelve to thirteen for girls and twelve years old for boys.

What motivated you to become a state trooper and more importantly what inspired you to get involved with bringing awareness to human trafficking?
My main motivation to become a State Trooper was my father.  My father worked for and retired from the Detroit Police Department as a Detective Sgt.   For as long as I can remember, being a police officer is all I ever wanted to be.  I look up to my father and have much respect for him.  I guess I wanted to follow in his footsteps.  It was his suggestion to join the Michigan State Police if I really wanted to be a police officer.
I would say the more I learned about human trafficking and how it happens everywhere, I became interested in seeing what I could do to help.
I joined the Genesee County Human Trafficking task force and began to learn more about it.   I also attended presentations from victims speaking about their experiences.   I see how it happens and how it affects our communities.  I felt that helping to educate the community was a great way to help.

Tell us a few statistics concerning human trafficking in Flint, Michigan and the surrounding areas.
It happens in Flint, Michigan the same way it happens everywhere in the United States.
Some interesting statistics:

  • 62% of victims are tricked into trafficking by someone they know and trust (boyfriend/girlfriend, best friend, ect.).
  • 35% of victims are sold into human trafficking by their own family.
    Only 3% of victims are kidnapped.
  • Every year, 300,000 children in the U.S. are at risk for commercial sexual exploitation.
  • Every minute, two children become victims of sexual exploitation.
    A trafficker/pimp will know within seconds of contacting their victim if they “got them”.
  • It takes as little as 8 minutes for a trafficker to win over his/her target.
  • 90% of all the children trafficked for sexual purposes are American children.
  • There are as many as 2.8 million runaway children each year in the U.S.
  • Within 48 hours of a child being on the street, 1 in 3 will be approached by a sex trafficker.
  • The most common approach is the “lover boy” approach.
  • This is where the trafficker will appear interested in a romantic relationship while gradually coercing the victim into prostitution.

If any readers might think a loved one is in harm’s way what would be a few actions you would suggest so they can get the help they need?
Be aware of and look for the warning signs.
Some warning signs of a victim include:

  • unexplained absences from school,
  • inability to attend school,
  • runs away from home,
  • makes references to frequent travel,
  • sudden changes in behavior or material possessions,
  • makes reference to sexual situations that are beyond ages specific norms,
  • drug addiction,
  • signs of physical abuse,
  • Avoids eye contact,
  • fearful of authority figures.

There is a lot of valuable information online at sources like the FBI, U.S. Department of Homeland Security, the Polaris project, and many more.

The National Human Trafficking hotline number is 888-373-7888
 

What steps did you take to begin bringing awareness and getting involved?

I am a member of the Genesee County and Shiawassee County Human Trafficking task forces.  I give presentations on human trafficking awareness at:
churches,
schools,
community action groups,
neighborhood associations,
Law enforcement,
Fire stations,
EMS,
Medical professionals,
and anyone who requests one.

What advice would you give to parents of youth?
Monitor your children’s activity!!!  I can’t stress that enough.  Kids today have cell phones, tablets, computers with basically unlimited access to the Internet.  Parents are too trusting of their kids.  We should be keeping tabs on what our kids are doing!
There is no such thing as violating your kids privacy when they are under 18!! 
You should know what your kids are doing online including:

  • Who they’re talking to,
  • Apps on their phones,
  • Online places visited.

If anyone is interested in contacting you further what would be the easiest way to reach you?
The best way to contact me is via Email: KramerS1@michigan.gov
Storytelling is never going to go away. I am honored to have the opportunity to be an outlet of sorts to bring honor to

Michigan State Police Trooper
Steven A. Kramer
Flint Post
Community Service Trooper/Recruiter

Men like Steven need to be recognized for all they do to help open eyes and bring awareness to the crisis of human trafficking in Flint, Michigan and around our country. Together as a community and as a country we can make small steps to help bring awareness and support to those affected by human trafficking.

One person that has been personally impacted by his actions is Rebecca Huey. I’ve spoke with her many times. She’s a phenomenal person.
She had the privilege to meet Michigan State Police Officer Trooper Kramer, Flint Post when she was a special guest speaker as a Christian Actress for a Human Trafficking event held by the Genessee County Medical Society Alliance in 2015.

Now as an Entrepreneur, Actress and Motivational Speaker, Rebecca Huey’s life has been changed for the positive by being able to share her story with Trooper Kramer which gave her the opportunity to begin to heal. Over time, she was able to share with Trooper Kramer her story and journey and how she is overcoming and excelling today.
Rebecca is an American actress known for her award-winning role Store Clerk “Best Cast” in redemptive romance feature film Providence that came to theaters in February of 2016. She was nominated and chosen Top 10 and Top 3 in 2015 and Top 1 in 2016-2017 by fans from across the world and Faith Flix Films, Tennessee for her press release interview.
Faith Flix Films released her interview in 2015 and it has traveled around the world bringing many others hope – the only hope that can be found in Jesus Christ.


Rebecca is also a female business entrepreneur that holds a business degree from a private college and is the owner of Education Creation LLC with Trademark Cursive Kidz™.

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So in her words concerning Trooper Kramer:

He is a voice for me and so many others that don’t have the strength to speak right away. He has gone above and beyond his job. He deserves to be honored and recognized for his sacrificial hard work, tireless effort to help others, superior dedication to combat human trafficking and for being a loyal trusted voice for those that don’t have the strength to speak. 
He is doing so much to help so many others in human trafficking in Michigan. He has helped me more than he will ever know and he deserves to be recognized for all he is doing. -Rebecca M. Huey 

America tips her hat to you, sir. Thank you. Keep up the good fight. We stand with you.

Written by Author Laura Aranda who published her first novel titled, Pushing Back the Darkness in April 2017. This novel brings awareness to human trafficking in America. You can find the book on Amazon or at her blog: Www.authorlauraaranda.com

For speaking engagements email: lauraaranda@owlofhope.com

❤️🌎Exclusive Interview: Creating World Change Through Your Career with me & Alice Hoekstra, Founder of Career Networking for Romantics

posted on: January 18, 2018

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We had a fabulous interview today concerning our business and how to deal with trailblazing without cheerleaders. We also talked about human trafficking and bringing awareness to those all around us. How to be safe. January is not only National Human Trafficking awareness month but also National Stalker Awareness month–so we provided tips on how to stay safe and keep those you love safe.

 

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Interview with Ruth Maetala, Solomon Islands’ Survivor and Advocate of young women’s rights

posted on: January 15, 2018

This incredible lady is one you need to meet and know about.

Advocate.

Mentor.

Mother.

Grandmother.

Pastor’s wife at Landmark United Pentecostal Church in Honiara, Solomon Islands

Minister- National ladies president for United Pentecostal Church of Solomon Islands

Author.

She has been to New York presenting the Solomon Islands Status of Women Report in 2010.

She has stood Representing women at regional meetings speaking to ministers of twenty four governments in September 2017.

Some of the most influential people are the ones we never hear about because they are so busy doing their life’s calling. This strong lady helps work on submissions to the United Nations to improve laws on protection for women, children and families. I wanted to highlight this lady, a native to the Solomon Islands in the South Pacific region. Read her story and show her some love. God bless you all. 

Where are you located? I live in Solomon Islands, a small nation in the South Pacific region.

How long have you been here? Since birth in 1970

What is your occupation? I am a development consultant

Who do you work with mainly? I ran a small professional consultant business called “Solomon Islands Support Services & Technical Assistance (SISSTA)” I mainly work with and for women, aid donors and government ministries working for women in Solomon Islands and the South Pacific.

We had armed conflict in 1998-2000 in that period two ethnic tribes used illegal arms in combat. I was part of the women for peace campaign. Our WFP group prayed every Monday and brought food to militants at the bunkers.

That period increased trafficking of young girls to logging camps. The economy was affected badly. So parents and relatives sold young girls as young as thirteen to Asian business men.

There was no protection for women during that time, poverty was at its highest. There was a breakdown of law and order.

What words do you use to describe the violence you have experienced (“rape,” “sexual assault”)?  

Inhumane. Rape & any form of sexual assault takes away a person’s dignity. It makes one feel worthless and has no value.


Concerning this trauma, what do you think is important for people to know?
It is important to know that rape traumatizes women and small children when this happens. It is important to know when the victim is ready to confront the issue and even support the victim when she/he does not want to face one’s offender.


How has this experience impacted you?It impacted me in ways I did not foresee. I did not know how to love a person. I became cold and not loving even if I had a big smile all the time.


What services/resources/people helped you in your healing?I did a course on human rights and learnt that as a human being I have some rights that God has given me which no one can take away and one of the rights include the dignity of persons.

How do you, now help others heal? 

I speak for others – I speak for women victims of rape and domestic violence.

Rape victims in the Solomon Islands do not come out, many choose to continue with life and forget their experiences.

I do speak out in conferences and work on submissions to the United Nations to improve our laws on protection for women, children and families. Women campaign for peace and human rights. I was leading the national council of women and we spoke against abuse and prostitution and child trafficking.

Helping others to heal – I take their case to Jesus in prayer. I became a prayer warrior because of this. We do not have institutions and services to provide professional counseling so we have a lot of opportunities to provide a safe prayer space for women.

Currently, I am working on a project called Mona and the Peace child. It’s a short piece but I am working on expanding it. It’s a Christian novel based on true history of how some tribes came to know Jesus through missionary work set in the year 1800.


What were the barriers to you coming forward?My barriers were culture and religion. Culture shames women if they experience any form of sexual violence and domestic violence. Religion often looks down on one who openly talks about violence and abuse because it promotes the righteousness of Christ. For example, when I first came into the church I fear everyone and everything because I was looking for love which I did not experience as a teenager and as a young married woman. But I did not find it in church either because when I started to talk about myself to an elderly saint, I was told not to say anything to shame the church. I held back my story till now.

How did salvation and religion play a part in your life? I was brought to the truth in 1995 through the missionary work of Rev. Roscoe and Mary Seay. I was already teaching Sunday school at an evangelical church but wanted more. Sister Seat was my neighbour and build a friendship I didn’t have with anyone else…her love for God and people drew me towards Jesus and the Oneness doctrine. In October I accepted the baptism in Jesus name. In the same month, I received the baptism of the Holy Ghost while praying over Sunday school material with Sister Seay and Sister Sarah Prince. It was the beginning of my healing journey. I was also influenced by Sister La Joyce Martin’s books and Sister Nona Friedman’s writings which built my faith in this God.


What suggestions do you have to make it safer for survivors to come forward?  Survivors need to know someone loves them genuinely, and safe space is available to talk about themselves, they need to know how to deal with themselves first and how to communicate with other people around them especially a husband who is an immediate neighbor.

Is there a certain scripture or quote you live by ? Yes – Psalm 139:14 “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.”. This is my strength to my long years of struggling to be free from the truth of living with the guilt of sexual violence for more than twenty years. This word gives me worth. It frees my mind and validates my dignity.

 My book is out of print.

If there was anything you could tell someone today that might be in a difficult situation, what would you say? Learn about yourself, what reminds you of the situation, confront it head on with confidence in Jesus. For years I have a spare room at home where abused women can be sheltered for a night or two. I tell them to find what makes them fear, pray for boldness to confront and also love to bear it as it comes. It sounds easy but it is very hard but in my experience counselors can do so much for a hurting person but only that person can want healing so bad to get it.

Thank you so much!

Will you remember me?

posted on: November 7, 2017

There is a song by Sarah McLachlan whose lyrics came to mind today as I was studying.

I will remember you, will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
I’m so afraid to love you
But more afraid to lose
Clinging to a past that doesn’t let me choose
Once there was a darkness
Deep and endless night
You gave me everything you had, oh you gave me life
I will remember you, will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
I will remember you, will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
It is fascinating when you realize that the mind makes up only 2% of the human body yet controls so much of our lives. It is responsible for all body functions as well as personalities, memories and how we react to the world all around us. This link is the page I studied today if anyone is interested in reading the entirety. 
Memories are not stored in our brains like books on a shelf. They must be actively reconstructed from elements scattered throughout the various areas of the brain. Memories cannot be deliberately deleted at your will. If we experience any traumatic events, I have learned through studies that memories are imprinted even stronger in our minds due to emotional content. Young children, with their lack of verbal and conceptual systems, are more likely to have real eidetic (extraordinarily accurate) memories than adults.
I spent this time explaining all of this because I want to combat the ideas and myths and lies like:
  • Pornography affects no one but myself.
    This is a lie. I submit to you Readers, what you place in your mind and what you allow your thoughts to dwell on feeds an industry that is perpetually pumping out this garbage to a world whose appetites are getting darker and darker.
  • What I do in my alone time hurts no one else.

What you deem normal and ‘OK’ will affect the way you view relationships. Girls that are in this industry are demoralized and abused and mistreated. When the veil on that world can be torn down and viewers see how those girls are treated and manipulated and bribed, would viewers still find ‘pleasure’ if they knew about the tears and nightmares behind the scenes as well?

Covenant Eyes says the following:Today, we have a multi-billion dollar worldwide porn industry. Pornography production and distribution is done by businesses that run like Fortune 500 companies. Pornography isn’t just a haphazard collection of images that kids find through scrambled cable channels and websites run by perverts living in their parents’ basements. No. Pornography is a business, and a pretty successful one at that. About 20 large U.S. companies are responsible for at least 70% of the hundreds of millions of pornography images online.

And why is this a problem? Up until recently those more likely to be predisposed to sexual addiction were those who had subconscious motives to act out sexually, such as victims of physical or sexual abuse. Now the Internet has changed that statistic greatly. Thirty years ago, when Patrick Carnes studied the neurochemistry of sex addiction, he was testing in a pre-Internet world.

 

There are now people struggling with sexual compulsivity who never would have been if not for the Internet.”

We must take our heads out of the sand. Cavemen may have used cave walls as their pornographic canvas, but there are no limits to the canvas of the Internet.

 

We have to keep our children safe. Insist on Internet safety. What is in the mind cannot be deliberately deleted. Guard your mind. I could use so many scriptures that talk about the mind. WE know the mind is a battlefield. The Devil’s playground. Don’t give room for him to work. Don’t place images in your mind that you cannot get rid of. Will you cry over the memories you allowed yourself to experience? Guard your mind. Guard your eyes. Guard your heart. Guard your memories.

Victorious Living class 

posted on: March 20, 2017

My heart is so full today. Hope it’s okay to share….


When the church works together….

When Saints outreach and knock doors…

When Reapers encourage and do follow up

When van drivers have a burden to make sure pews are filled

When normal everyday Friendly people smile and pray with people in the altar …

Things like this happen when the church works together as 1 body….

 People show up to church and pray and feel the need to join classes to GrOw in church. 

This was notes from one of our students in the Victorious Living class. She shared with me what she had learned as she read thru the first chapter of Proverbs this week. 

Another student said after class last week that the lesson really opened her eyes. I wouldn’t take anything for those memories. The feeling was priceless. It’s what I’ve always wanted to do. Teach. Our lesson prior to service went hand in hand with the sermon today.

This is week 3 of class

   Week 1 we had 3 students 

 Week 2 we had 5

Week 3 We had 5 with an additional 3 absent. So 8….

Ruben goes to the Restoration Conference with Daddy

posted on: January 28, 2017

Craig travels extensively with his job but when he is home, he makes the most of his time with the children.

Last night was no exception. He and the young married couples’ men from church went together to LA for a men’s conference. Ruben tagged along.

I spotted their notepads on the breakfast bar this morning. I couldn’t help but take a picture. Ruben may not be quite ready to spell yet but he was there with his notepad as well.

restore

I love it. Following in his dad’s footsteps.

Meet her some day

posted on: August 11, 2014

This is a poem I wrote. It needs brushing up and fixing but the first draft is below. I dedicate this to my daughter Caelyn. She is entering high school and decided she wants to become an author one day. Her dad told her to write. Writers write always… I don’t know if that dream will ever come true or not but if it interested her now….we say go for it. As long as she is pursuing a dream and not just being a bump on a log. Caelyn, we believe in you! You can do anything! You can be anybody! You can go anywhere! Go save the world!

 

Anyways I wrote stories since I was eight years old. My 5th grade teacher, Ms. Poole used to let me write stories instead of do my classwork at school. She believed in me. She told me to dedicate my first book to her and still to this day she ask me about that book that I have never written yet….and at 30 that dream seems dead and gone. Sad…. I wish I had a book to dedicate to her. I wish I had something to show her that she didn’t believe in me for nothing but that I can be what she thought I could be……

www.writerscafe.org

You are gonna meet her on the street one day

She’s gonna be better than you

She’s gonna be worse off than you

She’s gonna be every decision you never made

She’s gonna be the failures you didn’t fall into

She’s gonna be the triumphant wins you never won

She’s gonna be the victory you never chased

She’s out there

But she’s not you

She is not you